Reading is my therapy. It's what I do when I need advice, when I'm curious, when I need soothing or when I need to escape. A morning at the library is like (almost) a trip to the spa but free. A few hours cuddled under the covers or lying in the sun when weather permits with a good book are bliss for me.
Anyone who follows Snicks knows I'm a double fister...always a piece of non-fiction and a nice big chunk of fiction lay on my night table next to the lavender oil bottle.
Lately the non-fiction, in the form of parenting books has been a teetering stack rather than just one title. I have three kiddos always on three different stages of development and parenting them with respect and love is my forever challenge.
Tonight at Ry's final bedtime cuddle he was a little cesspool of curiosity spouting difficult questions. He was very confused how Mary had Jesus without kissing two men to make him...as in God and Joseph. Apparently that's how babies are made...people kiss then the Mom gets the penguin egg in her belly with the baby in it...and eventually poops it out. I get it, Jesus has two fathers in the bible...neither had sex with Mary to make baby Jesus. I explained how God put Jesus in Mary by magic/a miracle according to the story.(Obviously my next round of library sign outs needs to be on the birds and the bees for this little man.) My mention of magic brought about endless questions and theories on Santa Clause...tidbits of information he had heard from various playground sources, our books and one very confused neighbour man. The he presented his extensive thesis and observations regarding cookie crumbs and how you know if it was Santa who ate the cookies and left the gifts or a random man who broke in. "Like maybe a homeless guy...those homeless guys can be strange." -Ryan
Finally I asked what do you want to do tomorrow? in attempts to change the subject. His reply was as impulsive and as ridiculous as my little five year old: "We should just sit around and suck each others noses."
What I'm reading now for my Ry and LIam and always Noah too...
LOVE this book, it's written by Elisa Medhus, M.D., who also wrote Raising Children Who Think for Themselves. She is a Mother of five kiddos and writes extremely useful advice in a funny way. She is also so honest and raw about the mistakes she has made and open to admitting that often her parenting wisdom came via doing things that didn't work before finding logical solutions.
Noah is now fourteen, and having a teenager brings about a whole new set of challenges and issues to study.
Here are a few titles I've plowed though that I would recommend...I won't bother with the others.
* Fun vs. Obsession
* Sharing vs. Indiscretion
* Forging an Identity vs. Performing for an Audience
* Real Friends vs. Virtual Friends
* Sexual Well-Being vs. Sexual Health
* Privacy vs. Anonymity
* Education vs. Entertainment
* Your Teen''s Issues vs. Your Own Issues
(taken from the Indigo page...see my left sidebar link)
This book was fantastic for explaining how teens think...it presented lots of useful ways to approach them and most of all understand them when you are frustrated. I learned a ton and almost wanted to start reading it again as soon as I finished.
All kiddos get anxious at time and any parent who has felt heartbroken and frustrated by a child who wouldn't get in the pool at swimming lessons or clung to the fence begging for you to come back at preschool or kindergarten or clung to you at parties in social situations knows it can be devastating for everyone involved.
Another great book on Anxiety I read that was recommended by a Dr. several years ago but I had yet to finish was...
Anxiety is the number one mental health problem facing young people today.
Childhood should be a happy and carefree time, yet more and more children today are exhibiting symptoms of anxiety, from bedwetting and clinginess to frequent stomach aches, nightmares, and even refusing to go to school. Parents everywhere want to know: All children have fears, but how much is normal? How can you know when a stress has crossed over into a full-blown anxiety disorder? Most parents don't know how to recognize when there is a real problem and how to deal with it when there is.
In Freeing Your Child From Anxiety, a childhood anxiety disorder specialist examines all manifestations of childhood fears, including social anxiety, Tourette's Syndrome, hair-pulling, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and guides you through a proven program to help your child back to emotional safety.
No child is immune from the effects of stress in today's media-saturated society. Fortunately, anxiety disorders are treatable. By following these simple solutions, parents can prevent their children from needlessly suffering today-and tomorrow.
Whoa...like I said earlier, those are the ones I would recommend and they are all available via your local library or Chapters/Indigo via the link on the left. I feel grateful for the insight from all of them.
Now for the fictional fun stuff!
I had heard rave reviews from two friends with similar reading likes as me on this one....
Now I'll start by saying I didn't read past the first Twilight book in the trilogy. It was good I just felt done after the first book. I also found Bella to be a rather flaky character and was saddened to see it sort of glorified choosing the bad guy for teen girls. I was very captivated by the vampire thing though in the beginning.
The beginning of A Discovery of Witches was very disappointing for me...but I chugged along on the faith in my friends' words of passion. At times it's painfully overwritten and even borderline boring. About halfway though I was hooked. The main character is no lammo-Bella...she's smart and motivated and a complex character. Diana happens to be a scholar as well as a descendant of witches who is spellbound. Her vampire love interest was definitely not a sullen, wussy teen like Edward. Matthew is manly and captivating and is the perfect gentleman while still being mysteriously sensual.
I will definitely read on to the second book as the ending of this was a bit of a cliff-hanger but sadly I have to admit I wasn't as swept off my feet as my friends. I know there are lots of ladies who are gaga for the Twilight Trilogy who are anxiously awaiting to smack me at the side of the head...but when it comes to books I have to be brutally honest. There is so much amazing fiction out there and only so many hours a week available to take them in so I feel compelled to be picky.
Now, this last title and my current fictional pick was a little 'Merry Christmas to me' gift. I have read the Forgotten Garden by Kate Morton and really liked it. When I saw the Distant Hours for 75% off online at Indigo it was a no-brainer in my shopping cart.
I'm a big sucker for historical fictions and intricate mysteries. This book starts with a a hauntingly poetic passage from a classic children's book that got my attention immediately. I'm less than forty pages in but already enjoying this novel. There's another five hundred or more to go so I'll have to give you my final thoughts later on this month.
Wow, that was a book-a-rama! Now bed and some books are calling. Be sure to share your favourite reads with me and have mercy on my Twilight lovers...one day I'll give them another go.